According to Christie Hartman in “Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You,” there is a great possibility of ignoring your needs to fit into your man’s life rather than add to his burdens, which could lead to unhappiness later on.
Among other things, find out whether you are comfortable sharing your man’s time with his children, having his ex-wife in a future life with him and whether you are comfortable with the state of the relationship now. Don’t see him too often, meet his children too soon, get intimate right away or move in together.
Ladies listen, this man did not get used to a kid screaming like you did, he was not kept up nights tending to the crying and projectile poop, he isn’t seasoned in this.It should be as early as possible in the relationship so you have enough time to understand this aspect of your man’s life better before the relationship progresses further.Be friendly with the teenagers and respect their feelings.You must know what to expect and whether it is something you want and can deal with.It takes a large amount of selflessness, patience and understanding for such a relationship to work. Find out everything you can about him as early as possible.