I did my research and have come up with the good, the bad and the ugly of what it is really like to date a man with kids.
All of us fall in love differently, so I am bringing this to you in the spirit of Gary Chapman’s work on the “Five Love Languages.”In his work, he talks about the five various ways each of us gives and receives love: Words of Affirmation (compliments), Acts of Service (doing for you), Quality Time, Receiving Gifts and Physical Touch.
He will take every opportunity to bask in the glow of your budding relationship, and may often make a comparison in your favor. Just make sure you are never the one doing the comparing. If he is divorced and just now starting to date, he may not remember how important words of affirmation are. Competition: You will always be hers (even if she has moved on).
The Good: He will love doing anything with you that is a distraction from the mundane duties of his life.
This is especially fun if you guys get serious, or if the dating turns into a marriage.
Children, don’t get me wrong, are joyous beings I'm sure, but even with my large experience working with them professionally, would I be content to thread them into the fabric of my day-to-day life?
The question looms: Is it ever a good idea to date a man with kids?