So, if you add these together, I’m not sure they cancel each other out, but we probably come to a more realistic number of 22% of wives having a higher drive and an additional 14% matching their husbands. So, turns out that husbands are being refused (according to my criteria) a lot less than would be believed by sitcoms.
Which leaves us with 36% of wives having high drives. According to my respondents, we’re sitting at around 22% of men are being refused by their wives. How many married couples are there in your local church?
Because the wives have this shame that their husband doesn’t want to be with them, and the husbands generally don’t want to acknowledge the issue, let alone deal with, because they have their own stigma.
In societies view, what kind of man would pass down sex with a wife who wants it? Tell them that you read a stat saying that 11% of women are being refused. Share that some women want sex more than their husband.
"We have become very special to each other, even his whole family has become dear to me." "Just for the record, he is free to date anyone he wants, the same way I'm free to date anyone I want," she continued.
So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If he or she shakes at the thought of labels and won’t define your relationship as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” it’s a red sign that your relationship just hasn’t become exclusive yet and they might be keeping other options open. Why bother looking for someone else when you’re clearly off the market and you’ve won the prize? If someone wants to make the relationship exclusive, they won’t be logging on while you’re asleep to stare at emails and photos of others. When someone wants to date others, they’ll leave one of the weekend nights available.
While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and only, even before becoming Facebook official. When someone is really into you and has made you their steady squeeze, they won’t be hiding you and will be proud to show you off. When your significant other stops introducing you as just a friend and it’s replaced with BF or GF publicly, chances are you’re the one-and-only. When you’re excited about being together every weekend, you should know that you’re the one-and-only. You’ve whispered those three special words of “I love you” to each other. If he’s playing the field, all the ladies will know it’s his birthday and will want to be by his side. Not every day is filled with hearts, bells, and whistles. From a toothbrush to an extra set of panties and makeup, when your sweetie carves out a place in his closet or bathroom for you and vice versa, you’ll know it’s serious.
This is nowhere near the belief we’ve been fed that sex dies after marriage. If there are 50, chances are about 5 of those women are crying themselves to sleep at night because their husband doesn’t want to have sex with them.
In fact, from what I can tell, marriages in the community I am reaching are having sex on average 2-3 times a week, which seems consistent with other, more scientific, surveys. I mean, if the stereotype is to be believed, then there should be none, or maybe 1. I bet you’re going to have trouble paying attention to the sermon this week trying to figure out who they are. Now, we have lots of posts out there about men being refused, about how to deal with the rejection, about how rejecting your husband for sex is an act of disrespect, and on and on it goes. The shame of admitting that your husband doesn’t want sex with you can be more overwhelming than the hope that anyone can help.