We use the gender-neutral term “partners” to refer to people in an intimate relationship, but you might use a different word (and that’s okay)!
No matter how you define dating, it’s important to remember that abuse can occur within all kinds of intimate relationships.
Holding grudges for a long time can result in building up anger, distress, doubt and a lot of other negative feelings that can make you unhappy and stressed.
To maintain a healthy relationship, you need to be able to forgive your partner for their past mistakes. Try to remember: being with a person you cannot forgive is not going to do either of you any good.
Another possibility is that you and your partner are married.
Of course, marriage is different from dating in some ways, but you might be surprised at how similar they really are!
What makes a dating relationship healthy or unhealthy usually applies to marriage as well.
Even if you are “hooking up,” your partner should not be disrespectful or controlling.
You should be able to communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences or abuse.